A Typical Day:
-Wake up, 3am. Realize I’ve only slept 4 hours, panic. Get pissed.
-Mentally review my to-do list, ensuring I cannot get back to sleep.
-Fall asleep at 5:50am for 45 fitful minutes before the 6:30 alarm.
–Grab my phone to open my calendar & see what fresh hell lies before me today.
-Plan how to get all the things done before dragging my ass out of bed.
-Set myself up for defeat because I know I can not get all the things done.
-Race through everything – mentally & physically.
-Snap at the people I love. Feel constantly disappointed, irritated, anxious, and overwhelmed.
-End the day exhausted, frustrated I didn’t get through my list.
Repeat again tomorrow.
This terrible version of Groundhog Day has no end in sight.
I didn’t know how to get off the hamster wheel: I was too tapped out, overwhelmed, & forgetful to think creatively.
l hated disappointing everyone ELSE in my life. I felt heavy. Weighted down. Low. I cried a lot. There was no end in sight. Nor a solution.
As hard as I worked, as many lists as I made, I was a failure. Every. Single. Day.
And it wasn’t just that I was sad. I was ANGRY!
I’m SMARTER than this, I thought! I know better! This stuff isn’t hard. Why does this feel so hard?
Here’s why it feels so hard: Have you ever heard of the boiling frog experiment?
Essentially, if you try to put a frog in boiling water, it will strongly refuse the offer. It does everything to NOT get into that pot.
But if you put a frog into a pot filled with room-temperature water and slowly turn up the heat, well…you’ve got a boiled frog before you know it.
(Who wants a boiled frog, anyway? IDK. Stay with me though.)
The poor frog doesn’t feel the heat turning up. It doesn’t notice the water getting S-L-O-W-L-Y hotter.
That was me. I hadn’t even noticed how HARD things had gotten. How out of control my life was. How I didn’t have mastery over my own time.
Does this sound familiar to you? If you’re feeling overwhelmed, burned out, or frustrated that you cannot get all the things done, I want you to know…
It’s not your fault. (*Just like it wasn’t the frog’s fault!)
• It’s not that you’re disorganized.
• It’s not that you need a new planner.
• It’s not that your partner is too difficult.
• It’s not that your kids are pains in the neck.
You just haven’t been able to notice the water getting hotter. So, first: NOTICE! Look up & around. Are you the frog?
Next: get someone to help you turn down the heat. By this point, your job is not to fix. It’s to breathe. And you need someone next to you to do it.
I’ve been there. I know what it feels like to feel low. SO heavy. SO weighted down.
Let me help you turn down the heat. You can get out of the boiling water! You just need some REAL, reasonable tools to implement RIGHT NOW!
That’s why I created Make Friends With Time: Manage Your Life Without Losing Your Mind.
It’s a 4-hour workshop that can change your life – if you let it. It can help you breathe. Find space & create time.
Sunday, 3/4 12:30 at the Tech Garden in downtown Syracuse.
Can’t make the workshop but want to turn down the heat?
Reach out for a free Discovery Call. It’s 30 minutes to talk about YOUR challenges.
How would it feel to get some help turning down the heat? PHEW! That’s how it would feel.
Reach out & set up your Discovery Call. Or sign up for the workshop. I’d love to talk with you about your time management challenges.