How to figure out what’s the right next thing to do
Have you ever spent looking endlessly at a white page, cursor blinking? That was me this weekend, thinking about what I wanted to talk about today.
I repeatedly asked myself, Do I trust myself to write this? Should I hit “publish”?
I did the digital version of crumpling up the yellow legal pad paper & throwing it towards the garbage pail, only to start again, unsure where to go.
Unsure what to do.
For hours.
Have you been struggling with this feeling of self-doubt in life or business? Or both?
There’s a LOT going on in my life right now that’s making me question my OWN self-trust!
Here’s the tip of the iceberg I can share.
Last week, I was exposed to someone who tested positive for COVID. We got tested as a family & are STILL waiting in purgatory for results.
- Our county doesn’t require self-quarantining while waiting, but it feels irresponsible to walk around, potentially contaminating others.
- Even if I had a result to report, what does that mean? If I’m positive but asymptomatic, should I EVER go back into the world? If I’m negative, how long until I do become infected?
- How do I trust that I know HOW to move forward? What’s the right thing to do? It’s weighing on my heart.
THEN…
- Someone important to me was blindsided by her husband’s request for a divorce on Mother’s Day - a message he delivered via his children to her. How do you process that?
- She went on to find evidence of deceit. Shock & sadness merely scratch the surface of her feelings. Should she kick him out? Do they try & fix this? Will therapy help?
- How does she trust that she knows HOW to move forward? What’s the RIGHT thing to do? It’s weighing on my heart.
AND
- All of it. Right here for us to see out in the open. Injustice, unfairness, confusion. As a white woman of privilege, what should I be doing? How can I take my feelings of guilt, shame, horror, & confusion and be helpful?
- Rising blame, shame, guilt, etc. has created division & fear. In my own city, rioting & looting have occurred. An 8pm curfew is in place for all residents. Is this justified?
- How will we ALL trust that we know HOW to move forward? What’s the RIGHT thing for each of us to do? It’s weighing on my heart.
What are the answers??
I HAVE NO IDEA.
I mean - I have inklings. Moments of what my next right steps should be. Hard conversations I need to have.
But mostly? I DON’T KNOW.
I especially don’t know what’s right for you.
All I’ve got going for me right now is self-trust.
Which does NOT mean I know all the answers.
Self-trust means I know there IS NOT one right answer, and I must figure out what’s right for ME.
There’s a different right answer for each of us.
Self-trust requires us to forego perfectionism. People pleasing. Hiding.
Self-trust means I might screw up - and know I’ll learn from it. Maybe apologize. Start over. Revamp my plan.
It means whatever I’m about to jump into is HARD & confusing, but I trust that
- It’s the right thing for ME and
- I can handle whatever’s on the other side of it.
Even if it’s hard, uncomfortable, imperfect, or I need to do it again.
“What if I make a mistake?"
“I might say the wrong thing.”
“Which choice is the right choice?”
- Don’t. Know.
I don’t have a crystal ball. All I have is my inner guidance, a helluva a lot of resources, and MANY ways to educate myself.
If you know there’s a next step you MUST take - in life or business - self-trust is a foundational tool to help you do it.
It means saying to yourself, “I don’t have all the answers. I won’t be perfect. It’s a process. And I can handle whatever’s on the other side of this issue.”
Don’t be fooled by how it looks on the outside of anyone else’s life - we are ALL on a journey of “How do I trust that I know what the right thing to do is?”
Self-trust is scary - stop bullshitting yourself that it will ever STOP being scary.
Stop convincing yourself to wait to take action until you KNOW all the potential outcomes. You never will.
Begin your journey of self-trust.
Lead yourself. Give yourself permission to do the things you’ve been itching to do.
People who resonate with your words & actions will come along for the ride.
Acknowledge that you’re not for everybody. You’re not supposed to be.
There is great freedom in this.
It’s not easy to get there.
This summer I have exactly ONE spot open for private coaching - to help you not only with business growth, but also the courage, strategy, and implementation it takes to get there.
If you’re ready to have someone next to you on your journey -
With eyes on your business at a granular level -
helping you navigate YOUR business growth…
I don’t want to waste your time:
It’s a 5-month program and it’s a high four-figure investment.
It’s ONLY for people ready to trust & know that having a guide, a mentor, a coach WILL get them where they want to go.
You have big dreams. I have big dreams. The ONLY way I’ve gotten where I am is because of the support from my team, including my business coach.
We all need support of some type.
Interested? Apply for your free Coaching Consultation. I’ll reach out if we’re a good fit to have a conversation about working together!
This week, commit to growing your self-trust muscle!
